To Live Alone or To Not Live Alone?

Only you know the answer to this question.

Growing up as an only child I was terribly spoiled. I got all the attention from my mother, I did not have to share anything with anyone, and I got everything I wanted. Fast forward to my freshman year in college and suddenly I had to share a dormitory apartment and one bathroom with three other girls. It was all fun and games for about a year then shit hit the ceiling. I learned that I was raised disciplined and conservatively. I did not like noise, I could not stand messes, and I despised dealing with the horrid men my roommates let move in with us. After five roommate changes, I came to one logical conclusion — I needed to live alone.

Finally, I got a fair paying job and I could afford my own place. Living on my own was supposed to be the best thing that ever happened to me. Don’t get me wrong, it was much better than having roommates. But the next level up from roommates? Neighbors and landlords. Let me tell you, boys and girls, there is nothing worse than having a slumlord and an alcoholic neighbor.

Not only is my apartment falling apart limb by limb, but I can’t sleep and fear for my life every Saturday night my neighbor passes out drunk with the stove on and the music blasted. The alcoholism is understandable given that their mother is racist and has black children she raised in a sex cult. Nonetheless, I cannot live like this anymore.

Lucky for me, I was fortunate to fall in love. I have a wonderful and kind boyfriend that I’ve been dating for a year now and nothing is stopping this love train anytime soon. We have discussed moving in together and mapped out finances and even searched for places. The only question that’s holding me back is: Do I want to live with someone else again?

Now let’s think logically and outweigh the costs and benefits. The first and most heavily weighted benefit finance. As my mother once said, “It is much easier with two rather than one.” Given this was her advice while she tried to convince me to live at home and split the rent with her. For the most part, she was right. Having two incomes under one household is always easier than having one. If I am paying less for rent and bills, I have more money to save, invest, or spend leisurely if I like.

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